Do you wish you could say “no?”
One of the major points of my upcoming book is the incredible power of saying “no.”
It’s something that not many of us are taught to do right. Some of us are taught never to say it at all – that it’s “nice” to do whatever people ask us to.
Others are taught to say “no” all the time – so much so that they may not know when to say “yes” to what’s really important.
Here, I’d like to tell a quick story about how I learned to say “no” the right way – in order to say “yes” to the things that were most important to me.
I used to be one of those people who said “yes” to everything. If someone else had an idea or request, I felt like it was rude not to go along. But I soon found that I had countless dreams that seemed like just that – dreams that would never really happen, because they were always being deferred until later.
One day, I realized that I could be a better me – and a better wife, mom, and even a better employee – if I learned to say “no” when it mattered.
Boss or client have a terrible idea? Maybe it’s better to explain your concerns than just say “yes.”
Friend or family member want a favor? Maybe it’s better to say “no” to take some “me time” than it is to say “yes,” and end up resenting it, or end up so stressed that you forget other, more important things.
After a few months of saying owning my own judgement and saying “no,” I noticed a startling transformation. Because I was growing comfortable in my own power – the power to choose what happens in my life – I was now more powerful as a mom, wife, and employee than ever before.
Instead of simply “going with the flow” or following a routine, I could make amazing plans for myself, my husband, and my kids that would never have happened if I were only going along with other people’s ideas.
Being able to tell my boss when there was a problem with a plan made me a more powerful employee – I saved the department countless hours by pointing out where work would be redundant, or have bad results.
And, of course, this same magical power of “no” allowed me to begin working on a dream project I’d thought I’d never have time for: writing my own book, where I share all the secrets I’ve learned in ten years spent being a wife, mom, student, and award-winning employee – all at the same time!
If you want to learn more from my experience, without having to go through ten years of trial and error yourself, you can order my book here.
What’s one “superpower” you use on your family or professional path, that you wish you’d learned ten years earlier? Share your thoughts with me in the comments box below!
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